Back With a Vengeance

Have you missed me?  Well, I’m back in the Bubble.  I’ve been out of the country for a year and that’s why I haven’t blogged.  And before I hear any of you saying ‘Der, you can do it from anywhere in the world!’  The real reason is that I really just couldn’t be bothered.  Soz!

We’ve been in the States, mostly in New York.  The wife was given an amazing opportunity we couldn’t refuse, so we put the girls in boarding school (not entirely my preference) and off we went.  It’s been epic!  Obvs, not just a crucial supporting role for me. I had lots of very important film opportunities, let’s just say documentary type opportunities, to explore out there too.  Lots.

Anyway, I’ll be giving you the odd anecdote about my adventures state-side in good time, but this post is mainly dedicated to what’s the same and what’s different in Whitstable since I’ve been gone.

So, I’d like to invite you to take a little virtual walk along the High Street and around the famous sights of the town and help me re-familiarise myself with my adopted home and the people in it

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  • Bretts – Oh yeah. There it is.  I can feel my alveoli swelling with dusty gunk already.

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  • The Gorrell Tank – Still not repaired it then? What a surprise… Trade must have been good this year.  Not!

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  • The old Post Office sorting office – I understand there’s been all sorts of drama about this shutting and various doomed attempts to take it over as a community space. Simple solution that would really serve a lot of people like me in the town is to invite Waitrose to open a new store here.  I’m going to start a campaign!

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  • The Handsome Sam – Good good, another micro pub – shame it’s at the boring end of town. Probably give it a swerve.
  • Another café in Harbour Street – exactly what the town needs. As my office can be anywhere, the more alternatives, the better.
  • Another gallery – exactly what the town needs. Looks like they are actually attempting to exhibit good art too.  I’m in shock quite frankly.

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  • The Post Office has vanished!   And turned into a mobile thingy. Didn’t really use it to be honest – flattening that eyesore has made way for more much needed housing for people to relocate to the town.  There’s no going back to the way Whitstable was before (see previous post).  Embrace DFLs and enjoy the London cultural influences they bring!  The town needs their money.
  • 10842722-largeNew accommodation for unaccompanied young men at the old Ladesfield care home – been watching reaction to this on Facebook, particularly the volatile and mostly aggressive opinions on the group ‘Overheard in Whistable’. I think it’s quite right the empty building was used but it seems there is a lot of angry townspeople who disagree.  Negative opinions are mostly ‘not in my back yard’ right wing knee jerk hot air from what I’ve read. These children need to live somewhere! It’s only when you’ve lived in a truly multicultural city like London or New York – then come back – that you realise how bland the town is.  Come on Whitstable!  Let’s face it – you’re whiter than a vanilla Minimilk!  A diverse community is a rich community.  One of the happiest outcomes of the growing Eastern European community in this and neighbouring towns is the Polish food aisle in Tescos! Who can honestly say they don’t love that? No one, that’s who.  Looking forward to the Syrian, Iranian and Libyan aisles in the future.

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  • Another observation – distinctly less beards! Now this isn’t a bad thing for me.  I read an article in the Guardian which suggested we had gone beyond ‘peak beard’ and we’re now, as a society about to enjoy a new bald chin era.  It also suggested a phenomenon called ‘Negative Frequency-Dependent Sexual Selection’ – where women favour men with a different face-barnet to every other male in the room.  Well I’m alright then!  I’m one of a few with a great big beard in the town now.  Move over baldies – restrain your women – I’m back and I’m bearded! Lol!

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  • One thing I’m glad to see is no different at all: Georges Mini Market. A mecca. I’m not sure what we humble townsfolk would do without it.  I buy all my beard products in there for half the price.  You have no idea how expensive serum is in America!

Now this brings me on to a little anecdote about my time in the US.  There weren’t many beards around in the circle of friends we’d become part of, so while Pip was away one weekend, feeling homesick, I decided to go out in the city and see if I could grab an early evening beer in a place that reminded me somewhat of Shoreditch.  Sure enough, I came across a bar that seemed to have a higher than average proportion of similar looking beardies like me.  I had a couple of (to be honest, piss poor, weak) American beer and chatted with a couple of fellas at the bar.  I popped to the Gents and just as I was relieving myself, the young man next to me introduced himself as ‘Wolf’, then asked ‘Are you a Fozzie Bear lookin’ for love?’  I zipped myself up so quick I nearly became a eunuch!  I mean wtaf?  No!  So yeah.  Did a bit of googling on that one.  Looks like it’s a thing.  Not my thing, but it seems it’s not just the girls that love my face-locks.

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So, there’s two reasons why I thought I’d start writing my blog again.  First, the wife is away – we’re back in the country but she’s now working all over Europe, so I’ll have plenty of me-time to write.  Second, I’ve been roped into some project with a local woman who has suggested it would be a good idea to ‘drive up my stats’ before it starts.  Not really sure what she means or why, she’s keeping it all very mysterious.  But apparently my role as ‘fully assimilated DFL’ is core to the project.  Whatever.

Ah, it’s lovely to be home.  I’ve missed those sunsets!

Beardy-byebye!

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Who’s Beach is it Anyway?

Oh dear.  More controversy about ‘who owns the beach’ in Whitstable.  This story has been rumbling on for DECADES and I find it perpetually amusing.  The locals just can’t accept that their beach is privately owned – yet it’s true.   Like a simplified fairytale, the locals would have Barry Green and the Whitstable Oyster Fishery Company cast in the role of the evil overlords of their feifdom.  They have taken posession of the town, held the humble, defenseless villagers to ransom, stripped them of their right to use metal detectors  on the beach and forced the town to become – economically vibrant and successful!

Oh.  That’s not how it goes…Lol.

No.  And that’s becuase Barry Green is a GOD.

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There you have it.  And I’m not the only one who thinks that.  Read what Duncan Roy has to say about it from his blog in 2011:

“If Barry had not bought the Whitstable Oyster Company and preserved it and the surrounding buildings the Oyster Stores would have been demolished.  They were slated for demolition.  Barry saved the building and by doing so saved the town.

Barry is not a philanthopist..he is a businessman. …. People need jobs.  Especially now.”

Here, here.  But don’t those locals go on.  Honestly!  I’ve read people on Facebook paranoid that the Greens will put a toll booth at the end of the Street!  The issue blew up again last year when a campaign group tried to register the beach as a village ‘green’ (how stupid are these people – when did you last see a green pebble??).  It got rejected – read the article here.

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See how normal Green junior is – he’s wearing rigger boots! Oh look – Bretts. GRRRRRR!

I got to know Barry and his bonkers wife quite well in the 90s when me and Pip were just weekenders.  I was always very impressed with his commitment to business development and how personable he was.  I only saw him pinch a waitress’s bottom once, but y’know, if you’re the governor, you get the perks right?  All of that, surely can be forgiven if  you can single-handedly turn the fortunes of a drab, lifeless, jobless, dull seaside town around and turn it into something – Whitstabubbly.

So here’s a little adaptation to the sign they have on ‘THEIR’ beach – one of the several signs the locals are getting all het up about:

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Because actually, what Barry Green has done is like sprinkling Unicorn doo doo on the town – it’s made it all…magical.    Thank you Barry.  I still think £35 is too much for some grilled fish but I’m tight these days.  Lol!  But on a more serious note, what do people think might have become of Whitstable if the Oyster Stores had never opened?  I’ll tell you…it would have become like HERNE BAY.

Just don’t go there.  Unless you want to buy a carpet or you only have a pound.

Laters!

 

Ruffling Feathers

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A very close, local friend just sent this to me – apparently I’ve made the gossip column of the LOCAL RAG!  Well if you’re visiting me for the first time because you saw mention of my blog in their column, hello!  You might not always agree with what I have to say or my world view, but it is only MY view.  I don’t have a problem if I’ve ruffled feathers either – I think debate is a force of good.  Let’s face it, this whole DFL bashing malarky has been going on (in my memory) since at least 1990 when we first visited.  There is room for more than just a black and white view of it.

If you agree or disagree with anything I’ve written or you just want to say hello, or if you want to talk, I don’t know, fashion, kite surfing or beards, leave me a message!  And if you’re really offended, I’ll just delete it!

Ok – enough of this small town back street gossip – it’s the London Film Festival – starting TOMORROW!  Very excited to be going to the opening gala to see the The Imitation Game.

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I’m all over historical drama at the moment as I’ve been working on a screenplay loosely based on the 1953 flood in Whitstable.  I’ve not mentioned it before, but it’s coming together now and my agent is getting lots of interest/talks with broadcasters etc etc.  All good.  The truth is, the LFF isn’t like Venice or Cannes because it’s usually dismal weather, cold and dark.  The venues are all over the place and there’s no one central shmooze-venue.  But  – BUT – I would say the parties and the buzz is off the scale more cool than any other festival maybe apart from Berlin.  Which is why people like me LOVE IT.

As for the for the closing night gala.  Gonna give that one a big fat swerve.  Fury – set at the end of WW2, gritty, human suffering, blah blah.  Set in a tank that reeks of testosterone, sweat and fear.  Violent etc.  Well, I hate to admit it, but I saw Saving Private Ryan on the opening night in Venice and I nearly threw up on the Italian veteran sitting in front of me – that’s church, I swear it’s the truth.  When it comes to war flicks, Private Benjamin or Kelly’s Heros is more my cup of tea.  I get nightmares.  But, you know, if you want to put yourself through that for two hours – don’t let me stop you!

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So, if you’re new to my blog, welcome, if you’re a member of the Whitty Times team – how about you make me a Whitstable Pearl?  Or might that lose you a few hundred readers?  Lol.

Next blog – I’ll do a little review of the LFF and I suppose I’ll have to get round to my Assimilation Guide for DFL women.  Best not put it on Mumsnet though.  Hello Mumsnet!  Lol.

Laters!

C.K.Blaine’s Difinitive Rules of Assimilation

Now all that summer madness is over, time to get serious about what it takes to be accepted as a newcomer in a small, seaside town.  Those, like myself, who have made a succesful transition to happily be part of the community will tell you that as a newcomer, you have to make some changes.  This can be a painful process, so I’ve come up with a guide of how to make those changes in an incremental way, that won’t be too uncomfortable.

You’ll notice that this guide is specifically for men.  I will address the female issues of assimilation in another blog, if I can be bothered.  This one’s for the guys.

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First, a little pre-amble.  Unlike The Borg (pictured), Whitstable locals don’t necessarily want to assimilate you.  There is and will always be a stale crust of villagers that want to keep the ‘them and us’ divide alive and hateful.  Ignore them.  They probably aren’t even from Whitstable themselves.  However, there needs to be a serious period of pre-relocation mental preparation.

Pre-Relocatioin Mental Preparation

So you’ve ‘fallen in love’ with Whitstable because you came to the Oyster Festival have you?  Great.  The next year, remembering what a marvellous buzz it was, you come down, this time for Harbour Day.  Grand.  The next year, you think, ‘Ooh, I could live here’ and start to seriously fantasise about how much better your life will be if you could waft about drinking coffee in Harbour Street in your beard – full time.  So, on the strength of maybe half a dozen spring/summer/autumn visits  you make preparations to move.

HALT!

I urge you to visit on a Tuesday in February.  No!  Better still.  On a Wednesday.  A lot of the shops shut on a Wednesday afternoon.  You know, like in France.  Can you believe it?  Now you try and find something to do in February on a Wednesday afternoon in Whitstable that doesn’t involve:

a) Going to a cafe/deli

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Excellent bagals. Noice.

b) Going to the Horsebridge to wander around pretending to look at some god-awful local artist’s ‘work’.

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*Sigh*

c) Dragging yourself around the local museum

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Oh look. It’s raining.

c) Getting drunk.

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Bloody good pub. This will become the gateway to your transition.

THERE IS NOTHING TO DO.

‘Hang on!’ you say, ‘we could catch a matinee!’

NOPE – NO CINEMA

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Oh look. It’s a Weatherspoons.

‘Ok, we could have a fun, ironic time in the amusement arcade!’

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Due to be a mediocre supermarket – not even M&S!

NOPE – TURNING IT INTO ANOTHER SUPERMARKET

Here are some things you might want to do though – crown green bowls (outside) or Indoor Bowls, aqua aerobics, yoga/pilates in a church hall, Alcoholics/Narcotics Anonymous in another church hall, visit a church, confess in a church, walk along the beach in the bitter, howling wind and rain, go to a knitting group, attend a mindfulness workshop, take up kite surfing/windsurfing, commit Hara Kiri or GO HOME.

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Vast space that could be usef for much needed parking.
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Slumming it.
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Genteel hobby, but in February. No thanks!
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Knitting: leave it to HER.

Let’s rule out kite surfing, because that is actually cool, but it requires kit and planning.  The paucity of choice on that list is likely to make you opt for c) Getting drunk.  Now this isn’t a bad idea but you must proceed with caution.  There are a few tasty boozers that you simply shouldn’t attempt to go in.  You’ll get served, but whether you’ll be welcomed by the other punters is a moot point.  I don’t need to tell you which ones to avoid.  Your expertly honed ‘cool radar’ will identify the ones that you won’t feel comfortable in, just from the outside and the state of the smokers huddled around the doorway.  Lucky for you/us there are some very good ‘assimilation transition pubs’, where locals and DFLs can co-exist like Ebony and Ivory.  Go for it, but don’t act like a cock.

If you survive a Wednesday in February and you still want to move here, passionately – proceed to my guide below.

Ok, onto the guide.  This takes FIVE YEARS.  You can’t rush it – it’s a process.  Like pregnancy, but obvs, much more manly than that.

Year 1

1. Go out as much as possible, avoiding the above mentioned boozers.  Try not to act like a nob, but if you do, you can be safe in the knowledge that the locals actually quite enjoy DFL nob-watching.  The get competitive about it.  If you are firmly in nob mode, your ideal is to get quoted in the  ‘overheard in Whitstable’ group on Facebook.  This is a hub for locals to discriminate against DFLs and propogate the fallacy that they are unobservant, arrogant, crass and dim-witted.  Play along!  Let them have their sport!  You’re the one driving a Porche!

TOP TIP – Much mirth is had when DFLs can’t properly identify the Isle of Sheppey.  I recommend you go to the Black Dog/stand outside Harbour Books/Sundae Sundae or the Health Food Shop and ask loudly where the ferry for Denmark disembarks from.  It’ll make their day.  They have so little to do in the winter months, they need this.  They need YOU. Look upon this as a contribution to the cultural fabric of the town.  Be generous.

2.  Re-think your wardrobe.  You’re a resident now.  You need to realise not everyone who lives here is a sailor – by trade or recreation.  You can stop wearing your Breton top.  I know this is hard, but you need to give it up.  I’m thinking of starting a support group at the Horsebridge – on a Wednesday afternoon in February.  Lol!

3. Take up a hobby.  Yes, this is the kind of advice elderly bereaved people get to encourage them out of their lonliness, but it’s a good one.  Obvs, you’ve had to give up all that free culture in London and there is, quite frankly, sweet FA to do in Whitstable.  Don’t bother getting excited about the Canterbury Festival either, unless you’re over 60.  A sporting hobby is great.  Weight training, squash, tennis, windsurfing and kite surfing are all good male bonding options.  Well, maybe not tennis.

4.  Even if you have primary school age children, don’t expect to make friends with other parents.  If and when I can be bothered, I’ll cover this under the Women’s Assimilation blog.  My instruction to you is cultivate separate friends – in the pub and through your chosen hobby.  Leave the chummy couples dinner to the wife to organise.  You might not like her choices but the chances are the other husband won’t either.  You are merely a pawn.  Accept it.

5. If you are single/don’t have children, don’t expect to make friends with locals in the first year.  This is about expectation management.  It takes time.  You might think you’ve de-nobbed your behaviour and dress, but to them, you are still a glaringly annoying London twat.  Don’t even expect any meaningful exchanges with locals until year 3.  Fact.

6. When greeting other (DFL) males, give up the street style bro-clasp and either opt for a back slap or a trad handshake (eugh, yeah, I know.)  Again, it’s all part of letting go.  Deep breaths.

In the meantime, enjoy the view and start going to pilates on a Wednesday afternoon.  You never know, you might meet hot women there.  Bonza!

Year 2

A crucial year in the transition.  This is potentially the most painful as you have to start being pro-active in order to fit in.  It’s not just about a nob cessation anymore,  it’s about contributing something to the town.  Much easier if you’re a parent.

Year 2 advice for DFL Dads

1. Volunteer for every event on the calendar so you can stand about in a branded tee-shirt looking smugly at the tourists knowing it is plain to see you are not one of them.  Another thing to volunteer to do is reading at your kids’ school.  All the mums and teachers will LOVE you and word will get round that a male has given up their spare time to help little kids.

2. Run a face-painting stall for children at the castle over the May Day bank holiday.  People will think you are kind, nice, funny, generous and community minded.

3. Supervise the grotter building for Oyster festival, or organise a street party.

4. Go to a carol service at a local church.  You need to get in with the local vicar, in the unimaginable event your kids’ don’t pass the Kent Test.  Believe me, you do not want them going to the local school.  Only other option if grammer is out,  is a church school in Canterbury.  Do not be embaressed about going to church for this reason; 99% of the other parents are only there because of the Kent Test.  You might even make friends! Or find God!

Year 2 advice for childless DFLs

1. Go to the pub.  A lot.

2. Attempt to shag a local woman, but be careful.  Check her teeth.

3. Start a micro brewery

4. Make artisan cheese and sell to the local restaurants.  Have a stall at the Farmer’s Market.  Women love cheese.  They’ll think you are earthy.

Year 3

This is the year you can relax a bit and try and make a few local friends.

1.  Start aggressively patronising local shops.  Yes, it will mean it takes three times as long to get your weekly shop done and it will be twice as expensive, but it gives you an excuse to have a bit of chitchat, bit of banter.  They love all that.

2.  Consider your language and use of the consonant T.  A tough one but, if done subtly, it speaks volumes.  It says, ‘I’m one of you now’  but they won’t even know why.  Try this exercise:  Say ‘what’, now say ‘whogh’.  The ‘what’ has a voiced T, the ‘whogh’ has an unvoiced T.  It really is that simple!  Similar words you can apply this technique to are ‘Awigh?’ (as a greeting), havn’gh (haven’t), gogh igh? Well, have you got it?  Lol.

3.  Don’t start using the local patois.  That’s trying too hard.  Don’t double negative or they’ll be onto you.  Don’t say ‘in-nigh’ (see T sound instruction above) instead of ‘isn’t it’.  Do not EVER say ‘ain’t’ even ironically.  They’ll think you’re still a nob.  Just drop the odd T, that’s all.

4. Try and find out where these local traders (yes the very same ones that put you in ‘Overheard in Whitstable’) drink and be there when they are.  Buy them a drink.  They won’t refuse in case you say bollocks to their £47 per week meat/veg/bread/fish bill.  Soon, you’ll be japeing along with them, dropping T’s all over the place.

5.  Offer to put a workshop on as part of one the festivals that uses your expertise in what ever (probably) media area you work in.  Offer it for free.  It’ll give them a certain cultural cache to have your name in their brochure.

Year 4

You can’t relax yet.  You may be on first name terms with every parent in your child’s class, half the traders, a dozen bar staff and everyone at the gym, but you’re still an outsider.  So, what to do.

1.  Open an actual shop.  You don’t need to actually work in it.  You could give a local person an employment opportunity!  Sell stuff from London they could never get here.  Or, sell stuff from London to other people from London.  It doesn’t matter!

2. Start a pop up shop or event.  It doesn’t matter what it is.  Kebabs, pancakes, striptease, Cuban cigars, Curried insects – whatever!  Do it in an igloo or a yurt on the beach.  You’ll make a bomb.

3. Get a normal job.  The kids are older, they don’t need you to walk them to school.  Get a job with a builders, or as a painter and decorator.  Think what it’ll do for your creativity!  Think what Franz Kafka would do….

4. Go one step further and learn an oldy-worldy trade.  Like, er, blacksmithery.  Make swords and women’s belt buckles and other stuff and sell it in your shop.  You’ll have that dishevelled dirty hand look of a tradesman, but with the intellectual sensibilities of a Londoner.  If you are single, this will really help you pull a local woman.

5.  Wangle your way into the local paper as a Whitstable Oyster.  Yeah, cringey right?  But it has a strange kudos beyond it’s denotative vileness.  It has connotations that you have been accepted.  Eveybody in town reads this rag.  Probably for the obituaries, but they all know who the ‘Oyster’ is that week.  It’ll give you a twisted accreditation beyond any actual cool ever could.  As far as they are concerned, if you’re a Whitstable Oyster – you’ve arrived.

6. Be on some sort of panel, or join a protest group (you know like ‘Make Whitstable One Way!’) or start turning up at Council Meetings with your arms crossed and ask political questions.

7.  If  you’re single, marry a local (continue to check her teeth), but make sure you do a proper audit of her family history.  It won’t make you a local, nothing ever will, even marrying in, but your kids will be.  That’s the ultimate ‘fuck you’.

Year 5

You’re in.  Everyone knows your name.  Poeple chat to you in the street.  No one points and laughs anymore.  You can start to relax – but only a bit.

This is the period when you can start integrating London cultural hipster behaviour into their culture.  This is true integration and how communities grow and develop.  It’s how Britain got great – a melting pot of creed and culture that grew strong and proud by taking the best and evolving into something bigger and better.

1. Re-introduced the hipster bro-clasp when greeting any male local who is under the age of 50.  They’ll love it!  It’ll make them feel ‘street’.  Your cool will rub off and compensate for their lack thereof.

2. Kiss women on BOTH cheeks.  Locals only kiss on one cheek.  It’s v provincial.  In year 5 you can introduce the doubler.  You have to be quite assertive or there could be all manner of awkward body language.  Grab her firmly by the shoulders and theatrically ‘mwah’ one cheek then the other, pulling her side to side so she is in no doubt what to do.  You’ll only need to do it once to each female.  They’ll like it.  They get to kiss you twice as much.  ps.  Make sure your beard is silky smooth or you might get a slap.

3. Have a garden party and invite a mixture of DFLs and locals.  Warning – don’t invite people who have been here less than 3 years.  Too risky.

4. If you’re feeling really brave, reintrode a quaint old tradition that even the locals have abandoned – get your own pewter tankard hung up in the micro brewery/transition pub of your choice.  That way, you get ‘Oh, here’s CK,  get his special tankard!’  You’ll get respected.  And get it engraved too, in case someone tries to nick it.

5. Start slagging off other DFLs.  Let’s face it, they are bloody annoying.  Once you’ve been here that long, even you will become incandescent with rage at the Regatta (none came this year – see images from my previous post to see why), Oyster Festival and Harbour Day, just like I do.

One word of warning:  Don’t bombard the group ‘Remembered in Whitstable and Tankerton’ on Facebook with half memories and anecdotes.  You’ll get a life ban.  It happened to a good, very close friend of mine and REALLY upset him.  They are worse than Mumsnet.

Hello Mumsnet!

Right, what I’d really like now, is some other advice for people on how to assimilate – from YOU.  Maybe you did it and there was something that worked for you (please  – no women – you  have your own gender biased strategies – this is just for the guys.)  Maybe you’re a local and you have a different view to me about what is the correct way for a newcomer to fit in.  Whatever it is, I want to hear it.

Right, off to the pub for a pint of artisan ale in my pewter tankard.

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Mine’s a pint!

Ciao!

I Said Feminism – Good God y’all, What is it good for? Absolutely nothing. Say it again Yeah!

Hmm.  I admit, I’ve said some challenging things over the last few months but this one has been building.  Building for thirty bloody years!

Feminism.

Now, it sort of was easier for a bloke back then.  The Fems either looked like or were lesbians – in my era (80s/90s) big boots, cropped, punky died hair, tats, attitute.  A bit holier than thou with their morals more than the boys, but liked the boys A LOT.  In London, anyway.   So much so, I even married one.  Then it all got so much more confusing.

Now – and the point of this is trying to understand my daughters – it seems girls want to deliberately provoke the sexual passion of every predatory male around.  I don’t want to let them out!  They wear these ‘skirts’ that barely cover their arses over bare legs and these platform shoes.

‘Do you know how platform shoes were invented??’  I say to them.  ‘By evil Pharoahs trying to stop their wives running away!’.

‘Daaaaaaad.  It’s fashion, innit?’  they say, with the affected local twang.

So much for Grammar school.

So feminism.  For me, and I’m sure for countless other men my generation, it meant a slap round the face when you put a hand out, or when  you said the wrong thing, literally or metaphorically.  Or later, in a relationship, constant put downs about how shit men are.  In a long term relationship, that drip, drip of rhetoric that the Fems have of driving a man down, making him seem – diminished.

Here’s my best and worst.  Not including the gays.  That’s a different issue altogether (I quite like a lesbian) …

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Here she is.  In a ‘feminist’ bikini.  Lol. She’s all, ‘Ooh, I’ll show my body off and say it’s alright to do it while I’m young because I’m a feminist and say – “Ooh, fuck you!  If I want to show off my body, that’s my CHOICE, because I’m a girl…I’m not subjectifying myself….blah, blah.  I’ll just do it with REALLY bad photography, encroaching plants, unflattering lighting and The Bible in my hand. (But I’m only going to do it loads while I’m young when I look almost hot)’.

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Bet you’d wished you’d worn a bra now eh, sweetheart?   Here, in fact, is a shot of her saying to the Professor of Breast Sag ‘Struth!  I wish I’d worn a bloody bra!.’  There. Proof! Lol.

But that’s my point – this woman is STILL BANGING ON about how shite men are.  WE. ARE. NOT. SHITE.  At least Kathy Lette said, with passion, ‘I LOVE men.’

Now, here’s a FEMINIST who’s a bit diff.  Just look at her…

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Naomi Wolf, apparently.  Naomi WOOF.  I have no freeking idea what she has written.  I know she’s American, but she hasn’t been IN MY FACE like the other one has.  Although, if she did want to, I wouldn’t complain.

Ok, got to stop or I’ll get sensored.  I’ve realised The Wife only reads my really long rants. If I keep em below, Christ, I don’t know, 1000 words, she can’t be bothered.

Tip:  Don’t. Get. Married.

Give your Feminist Girls a Big Squeeze from me. Not literally, coz they’re probably ugly, but figuratively.  Ta.

Whitstable is fuck boring after hours isn’t it….

TTFN.

Kathy Lette @thehorsebridge

Yo!

As you know, I think the Horsebridge is a bit, provincial artsy.  But even I had to admit they pulled the bunny out of the hat tonight.  The wife dragged me along for Kathy Lette’s book plugging ‘interview’.  I was vaguely aware who she was and only when I saw how many silver haired culture vultures there were there did I fully realise that I’d be spending AN HOUR AND A HALF  in a boiling room with menopausal women having hot flushes.

Sounds bad right?  Well looky here at this –

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She. Is. Hot.

She did bang on a bit about how crap men can be but she said she loved us too.  Take it from me – this woman is a SALATIOUS HUSSY.  I love my wife, but, you know, we boys have fantasies too…

Kathy, if you ever fancy a snog, let me know.

 

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This is her new book.  I won’t be reading it because I have a penis, but my wife will.  She got it signed.  I just liked how she thought I was a great bloke because I’d come along with Pippa.  Question – are Australian women good in bed?  Just wondering.

 

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Whitstable Exhibition and the Venice Film Festival

Wappen dup!  Busy busy!  Hung out at a private view at my best budddy Chris Conway and Nick ‘Sandman’ Stroud’s’ exhibition.  So, sososososo cool.  Choons could have been a bit louder, but then, you know….was the Horsebridge.  Yawn.  To quote an 8 year old I overheard – ‘they should break out some dub step’.  I don’t actually know what that is, but this kid looked like he knew.

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Then – hard as it is to do it, I had to go to the Venice Film Festival.  Aw, I know….so I’m going to treat you know to some photos of Venice.  Some gossip from the festival and a link to the best films ever shot in the city, in case you ignornant oiks didn’t know….:)  First. a warning about Venice – there is A LOT of water there.  So, you know, if you don’t like water…

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The usual red carpet spectacle at the Casino on the Lido.  We didn’t stay there this time.  Prefer to stay on Venice proper these days.  We managed to blag our way into one of the bigger hotels along the beach front and use their pool for a couple of hours.  It’s amazing who you get to meet if you do that…

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This is where all the press meet – in the basement at the Excelsior.  Possibly the most vulgar and overly opulant hotel in the world.  Vile.

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Crazy Lido living.  The sea was pretty warm this year.  Got a tan.  Wife burned.  Just resent paying 12 Euros to sit on a beach.  Whitstable is free!  Mind you, the skirt is a lot easier on the eye in Venice.  On reflection, I’d willingly pay 12 euros to lie on a beach and NOT have to look at burning, white British blubber handing over the top of an ugly pair of cargo pants.  You get told to leave if you’re fat in Rimini.  Hmm, maybe we could have a section of beach in Whitstable like that…

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You also don’t see this chap in the Bubble…He’s getting married here in a couple of weeks.  She’s stunning, just in case you haven’t seen pics of her.  But a bit too, you know, intellectual for my liking.

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The opening film of the festival, the highest-profile title and one of our most anticipated of the year, expectations could not have been higher for Alejandro González Iñárritu ’s “Birdman.” But it didn’t just meet those expectations, it surpassed them, delivering a dizzyingly successful about-turn from the director, and a career-comeback-making performance from Michael Keaton, as well as scene-stealing roles for its supporting cast, especially Edward Norton. (from Indiewire).

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This was great.

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Pacino at the Excelsior.  He starred in festival entries “Manglehorn” and “The Humbling”.  He did bang on about Salome a lot though.  God, didn’t he.

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Francis McDormand got a well deserved prize

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As did Scorcese’s long time editor Thelma Schoonmaker-Powell.

Here are some pics I took in between watching films

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Onto the first of the greatest films shot in Venice – ‘Death in Venice’.  Beautiful, poignant, wistful.

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The second of the best films shot in Venice – ‘Don’t Look Now’.  One of the greatest films of the 1970s.  Really eerie, chilling.  Uses Venice’s echoey alleyways and misty winters to great spooky effect.  And it’s got the most brilliant, but odd sex scene ever – but who cares?  Julie Christie is in it!

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Some red carpet moments at Venice –

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Some vintage Venice.  Who wouldn’t have a bromance with this dude.  My wife wanted me to shave my whole beard off for the festival, but instead, she allowed me to trim it so it looks just like this.  I miss it, but hey, it’ll grow back.

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We had a bit of a shock when we came back.  Turns out our eldest has been fraternising with a local lad.  He was a fair bit older (but looks about 12).  I won’t go into details, but let’s just say Marie Stopes were very supportive as were the staff at the clinic.  I’m all for integration, as  you all know, but that’s not the kind of integration I was planning my daughter doing with the local indigenous population.  All over now, she’s learnt a hard life lesson.  She’s just started seeing a very charming lad from Kings School.  Phew!  What a relief!

Now, I haven’t really mentioned it before, but I’m actually a great fashion fan and this is the season to get excited about.  I’ve been to a few shows in the past – what a buzz!  There’s some very funky stuff out there this year.  Some of my tips for this year.

Bold patterns and statement jumpers – yes please!

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Tailoring with a hipster twist.  Don’t mind if I do.

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Oversize, colourful, fluffy coats and jackets!  I’m almost looking forward to January.

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One for Pippa.  She needs it, quite frankly.  Way too much pasta and ice cream in Italy.  It’ll take her three months to shift it.  Best just sling on a blanket.

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This is a great look that I could rock.

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Hats.  Big fan of a hat.  I would wear any of these.  Maybe even more than one at once.

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Not so sure about this look though.  But hey – that’s fashion!

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TTFN pop pickers!